Dating someone who is not yet divorced
You see, I separated from my ex two years ago, and our divorce was final about eight months later.
Simply put, dating has a zero percent chance of making a divorce go smoother, and a bazillion percent chance of making it more contentious. I get that Ben has been separated for a couple of years, and that it was his wife’s decision to move out. Ben will be preoccupied with the twists and turns of his divorce at times – and that’s understandable.
When it comes to seriously dating a nearly divorced man, there is frequently a third person in your relationship – his not-quite-ex-wife.
It feels like he’s the one for you but the strong emotions he feels for his wife are a challenge. She was a bitch, yet he seems to be grieving the loss of HER.
I also hasten to add that not separated man is disastrous to date – and should be considered as a unique individual.
When a man has truly processed his divorce and moved on, he should be able to speak to it with compassion, kindness, and wisdom.
‘TIL DEATH DO US PART Although I’m sure there are exceptions to this, most people marry intending to honor their commitment of a lifetime union.
And they make these commitments to each other because they love each other and believe that entrusting their future happiness to their mate is a safe bet.
And when that happens, it’s anything but smooth, simple, and unemotional. That’s wear and tear on your relationship that would never have happened if Ben had wrapped up his divorce before you two started dating.
Even if that doesn’t happen, a divorce, no matter how civil, is nobody’s idea of a good time. So, yes, in a perfect world, people would conclude their previous relationships, paperwork and all, before entering into new ones.